Reluctant Realizations

Guess what? You’re on this journey to a better year with me!! Aren’t you excited?? I know I am! I’m going to need your help though – I have a tendency to get excited and start out really well with things and then the excitement wears off and it becomes a slog and UGH! I usually get bogged down and eventually stall. I DO NOT want to do that this year. I NEED to, and my family needs me to, keep on going even when it becomes a slog. Sharing my thoughts along the way is one way I have to make sure I keep on going – a way of being accountable. I am hoping┬áthat knowing someone might be reading this just might be what I need to beat those slog days down! Thanks for joining me!

 

Now to what I really wanted to say today:

 

I’ve been doing A LOT of thinking over the last couple of days about how our house functions and the routines that we currently have (even no routine is a routine). The current (lack of) routines aren’t working (as I’ve stated before) so I’ve been trying to put down on paper reasonable routines that work for all of us.

IT ISN’T WORKING!!

Up until now I’ve been getting up at the same time (or close to the same) as all of the children in my house. With a toddler this is almost a given especially when he finds himself in our bed every night – I can’t really get up without him knowing! But the big kids are getting up just after me most days because I am waking them up (problem #1 to be addressed in my mind…at 14 and 13 they should be getting up on their own, IMO!). I haven’t seen this as being a problem until now.

What’s the problem?

I need some alone/quiet time in the mornings to wake up and have a cup of coffee, to read a little, write a little, catch up on Facebook, review what the day holds for us before it actually starts. I also need someone to be somewhat aware of Liam and what he’s doing while I am busy getting ready for the day. If I am getting up at the same time as the big kids, we’re all trying to wake up at the same time, eat breakfast at the same time, use the washroom at the same time…you get the idea. We’re on top of each other! Not such a good thing when you have 2 people who are not really morning people – me!! and Emily – and 2 who are more that way – Isaac and Liam. Most mornings it results in a bunch of not very happy people! THIS IS NOT WORKING! And trying to create routines and order to the morning based on all of us being up at the same time is just crazy – continuing to do what isn’t working while hoping that it will finally work is downright certifiable!

So what’s my solution?

I need to get up earlier than the big kids.

DID I JUST SAY THAT IN MY OUTSIDE VOICE??

This is a somewhat really painful realization for me – I am SO NOT a morning person! And for this to happen it means I have to be up at the same time as my husband. What’s wrong with that?? HE’S A SUPER HAPPY MORNING PERSON! He likes to TALK in the morning! I DO NOT. I’m not sure if he’ll be able to deal with me being in the living room, quietly drinking my coffee, and not talking. It also means I am going to go to bed before 1 in the morning. EEK! But reality is, I need to get the beginning portions of my morning out of the way before the big kids get up so that I can get on with the active parts of my morning while they are in their wake up times. I need their help keeping an eye on Liam without it causing conflicts. Our household needs this just to function smoother. I can’t do this without revamping the bedtime routine. A lot hinges on when I get up.

Oy vey! I am thinking this might be the hardest part about implementing new routines. I was trying to avoid recognizing this need but reluctantly I must. Guess I’ll be setting my alarm tomorrow….